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Thursday, July 3, 2014

How Do You See Yourself? Shade Free

How Do You See Yourself? Shade Free
As I scrolled down my Facebook timeline as people participated in the Grown and Sexy Collage Challenge it was nice to see people participate male and female.  Everyone doesn’t view grown and sexy in the same light and my thought on that is to each their own.  All men are not attracted to skinny women, all women aren’t attracted to muscular men so we can’t say what is grown and sexy to one is not grown and sexy to another even if it is not grown and sexy to you!  I read a post this morning that got me to thinking, the post in my opinion was bashing some of the people that participated n the challenge and my first thought was stop trying to put people in the box that you are comfortable in.
 From there I found myself in Webster’s dictionary defining a few terms for this much needed blog to get a few things off of my mind.  So let’s first define self respect, self esteem, character and integrity before I delve off into what’s really on my mind shall we?! Of course we shall. J
Self Respect is defined as proper esteem or regard for the dignity of one’s character. 
Self esteem is defined as a realistic respect for or favorable impression of oneself; self respect.  Another interpretation of the term is also defined as an inordinately or exaggeratedly favorable impression of oneself. 
Impression is defined as a strong effect produced on the intellect, feelings, conscience, etc. 
Character is moral or ethical character, reputation, the aggregate of features and traits that form the individual nature of some person or thing; Qualities of honesty, courage or the like integrity. 
Integrity is the adherence to moral and ethical principles, soundness of moral character, honesty.  The state of being whole, entire, or undiminished it also referred to as virtue.

Now that we have the definitions out of the way let me tell you how I really feel.  Women all feel they have some level of virtue but not all are women of virtue (marinate on it). 
Well since we are here let’s throw this definition in the pot as well.  Virtue is defined as moral excellence, goodness, righteousness.  Now let’s sit and ponder on this for a moment…my virtue may not be your virtue and vice versa.  Where one sits decides where they stand so my arena may not be your arena but does that make you a more virtuous woman than I, I think not.  I don’t care if you’re in the club seven days a week or home with your kids seven days a week or off being Messy Jessie, Boring Becky, Awesome Antoinette or Freaky Francine seven days a week, that ain’t my business nor my concern!
We really have to stop judging people based on such petty items such as what they post, how they pose, what kind of pictures they take, who they date, how they dress, etc, etc, etc.  Let’s look at how they contribute to society, how are they raising their kids, how do they respect others, how do they respect themselves.  I saw all kind of pictures and I really did not frown at one, because I respect people’s opinion of themselves and where they may be in life at this point and time. 
See there was a point in my life where I dressed in halter tops and daisy dukes with cleavage all out, super short tight dresses with stilettos, huntay I did all of that and had fun doing it too!  I enjoyed my body and my sexiness during that time of my life.  I was raised to know that jeans were meant to be worn tight, you should not be able to pinch an inch, and flaunt it while you have it because one day it may be gone and most importantly to never ever be ashamed of anything I do.  This is why I can live my life not giving a thought of what anyone says or thinks about TOT because in my mind it is what I think about myself that truly matters. 
Change comes with time!  Nothing anyone said or did changed my dress, my attitude, my conversation or anything about me but me.  And truth be told those that feel they are the epitome of virtuosity must understand that hey people feel some type of way about you too!  Yes, boo its true!  You may be one that covers your body up and speaks calmly and feel that you are what every man should want but that doesn’t open the door for you to judge and talk down to others because they are happy with the skin they are in (feel free to read my blog on that in case you want to know what I mean). 
There was a time in my life where I was sexy as sexy could get and you could tell me nothing and today I still feel that I am as sexy as sexy can get for me.  I don’t feel there is a woman out there that is better than me or more deserving of what I desire in life because if I desire it then I shall have it no matter what it may be. 
So the next time you want to throw shade because someone is proud of their hips, thighs, ass, breast and or cleavage just realize that you are knocking just as Messy Jessie would.  Perhaps you are not currently or may never have been happy with your own lips, hips, thighs, eyes, ass and/or class so you knock those who are.  Now is this a shade post?  No, no , no, no shade, for real (in my Nikki Minaj voice) of course not it’s a post for all the women of God that turn their nose up at women that were once like me. 
Only God can judge and change a person so just stop it ok…..holy rollers are just too much nowadays but how about we post what you do in private since your choice is to ridicule what others do in public! Now that was my shade tree right there because I don’t throw shade I throw trees baby….let’s get to the root of it all.  God saved me and God changed me but he still gave me the freedom to be me! J  Until next time my lovelies have a glamorous day!
          ~Glam Couture

Sunday, November 3, 2013

The Life of Glam_Couture™~Glamourosity: LORD NO MATTER WHAT I TRUST YOU

The Life of Glam_Couture™~Glamourosity: LORD NO MATTER WHAT I TRUST YOU: Today I woke up with happiness in my soul!   I had an exciting day at the salon yesterday and God was moving in the spirit realm from the ...


Today I woke up with happiness in my soul!  I had an exciting day at the salon yesterday and God was moving in the spirit realm from the time I woke up he was placing things on people’s heart and in turn they revealed those things to me.  Oh how great it is to hear from God.  My morning scripture reading was from the book of Luke Chapter 5 and I read and once again God has revealed something to me within the scripture in verses 1-5.  This prompted me to write a blog today because someone out there will be just as excited as I am at the revelation that was revealed. 

Luke 5:1-5 KJV

And it came to pass that, as the people pressed upon him to hear the word of God; he stood by the lake of Gennesaret.  And saw two ships standing by the lake: but the fishermen were gone out of them, and were washing their nets.  And he entered into one of the ships, which was Simon’s and prayed him that he would thrust out a little from the land.  And he sat down, and taught the people out of the ship.  Now when he had left speaking, he said unto Simon, Launch out into the deep, and let down your nets for draught.  And Simon answering said unto him, Master, we have toiled all the night, and have taken nothing: nevertheless at thy word I will let down the net.

My God! My God!  I have heard several sermons on this scripture and they were all taught from the perspective of what Jesus saw and taught but my blog today is going to speak from the perspective of us that follow Christ.  When he says go we go, when he says do we do, when he says stop we stop, when he says give we give, when he says take we take, whatsoever God says we do it with faith that we are following his will and desire for our lives.  I can’t tell you how many times I have acted on faith only to feel like Jeremiah, ready to stop and give up because the promise wasn’t there but I couldn’t because it was like fire shut up in my bones, ready to say God must not be real and I must be crazy BUT GOD!  Yes, BUT GOD, he knew those days would come so the way he called me to him I couldn’t say he didn’t exist he is very, very real!  He called me from Florida to Ohio with a contrite heart and a broken spirit to show me he was real.  The pastor called me out in church that day and spoke to me what no other man but God knew therefore I know he is real lovelies. 

Now in the scripture if you caught what I caught Simon and the fisherman had already been out fishing all night long (in my Mary J. Blige voice), they had caught all they could catch or they caught nothing at all (because sometimes say nothing but only one is something), they had given up and came back to shore, stepped off the boats and were washing their nets.  They were done with fishing!  BUT GOD!  Jesus stepped onto the scene and called Simon to the boat and prayed him to push back from the land! Jesus prayed someone to do something for him, he petitioned Simon, and he begged Simon to come on just trust me!  Jesus was saying Simon, push back from the people and take a ride with me Simon.  Step away from the natural and ride with me into the supernatural.  You did it your way now let’s try it my way.  See this was Jesus plan unbeknown to Simon so he did as Jesus had asked.  Now Jesus taught the people from the ship then he asked Simon to launch out into the deep.  Jesus asked Simon will you allow me take your faith deeper than it currently is, are you willing to trust me enough to give it one more try?  Simon replied as we all do when we have given up (let’s keep it real okay), we tell God what we have done, what we found, what we have and in the end we either proceed in faith or we walk away not trusting God.  So Simon told Jesus and let me paraphrase a little.  He said, “Look Jesus we have been out there all night and caught all we could catch and it really wasn’t much.  We already went out there in faith and we did not return with what we were expecting, as far as I can see we have nothing.  I have washed the nets, I’m tired and I just want to go home.  But you know what Jesus I trust you so if you want me to launch out into to the deep there must be a reason so if you tell me to do it I’m going to do it.”  Simon let Jesus know where he had been and where he was at but in the end he said you know what Lord I still trust you and he preceded with Jesus request.  And what did he receive?  A blessing, an overflow, more fish than his boat or the other boat could hold.  The scripture says it was so much fish in the net that the boat started to sink, but not only Simon’s boat but the second boat as well that came out to help.

 Now what does that mean, to me it means when you were going through all those that stood with you and encouraged you, helped you work your faith, when you get your blessing they get theirs as well because the blessing you receive is over flow, it’s more than you can receive, it’s in the land of milk and honey and God said he would bless you to be a blessing.  I have come to the crossroad so many times in life and was ready to give up and turn away from the blessing.  I didn’t want to turn the wrong way but I had an option.  Keep walking toward the blessing (straight), do evil for a quick breakthrough from the devil (left) or just give up and live a life of mediocrity while praising God (right).  I always choose the road to the blessing.  I can’t tell you how many times I wanted to give up but I kept pressing through.  I can’t tell you the tears I cried and the number of sleepless nights I have endured but there is one man that can.  God had seen all that I have done openly as well as in secret, he knows the exact number of tears that I have cried, the exact amount of sleep that I have lost and every person that has done me wrong.  When I read that scripture it confirmed all that happened yesterday and today I am fully prepared to launch out into the deep.  So just sit back and relax and watch my God work because he is moving and I am catching the wave as should you. In life moments arise and we think OK God look me and you need to talk because I’m not seeing anything over here, don’t give up keep toiling your ground and digging to the ROCK so your foundation will be strong and sturdy.    NEVR GIVE UP!  Until next time my lovelies have a glamorous day.





Monday, September 2, 2013

The Life of Glam_Couture™~Glamourosity: God is Faithful: Speak It and IT shall Come to Pas...

The Life of Glam_Couture™~Glamourosity: God is Faithful: Speak It and IT shall Come to Pas...: Glam Couture Hair St. Petersburg, FL About a year ago I blogged that I wanted to work at the Bronner Brothers Summer show in Atlanta, ...

God is Faithful: Speak It and IT shall Come to Pass!

Glam Couture
Hair St. Petersburg, FL

About a year ago I blogged that I wanted to work at the Bronner Brothers Summer show in Atlanta, Ga well this year I did just that.  It was everything that I thought it would be, I felt like I was right where I wanted to be.  The moment I have trained my entire career for finally happened.  I worked at the New York Fashion week of Hair....the Bronner Brothers Hair Show in Atlanta, GA and I was on the floor platforming and educating for Epitomi Professional Hair Products.  So know I am shamelessly doing something that I have never done before, promoting myself, promoting my salon, promoting my career and ultimately accepting and believing in my destiny.

The Cosmetology industry has taken me so many places and given me so many opportunities and I am ready to accept them all.  I have done everything in this industry a person can hope to do with the exception of working live on set of a major movie or TV show but that is next on my list, it shall come to pass!  In life we go through many changes and challenges and I gave up on my career in the cosmetology field and opted to focus on being a great mom, an awesome wife, a caring friend and a person you could confide in with trust that nothing would be repeated.  Well I am a good mom, I failed at the wife part, being the great friend and confident drained me until I was ready to quit and give up and almost lost my mind but I suffered awhile.  I paid a price to be who I am, don't let anything you see fool you.  I am ready to be what I am destined to be, a world renowned hairstylist, weaveologist, extention specialist, colorist and makeup artist that will give you the best precision cut that you have ever seen that flows and moves like silky butter all while sharing the goodness of my Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.

I'm happy, internally and externally, I have my peace and my fight back and I'm in this to win.  All the things I have been through were for a reason, I have carried burdens that people don't see, but God saw it all and he did not put more on me than I could bear but it prepared me for my destiny.  The cosmetology field on the level I'm on is not for the weak or the faint hearted, its for the fighters the ones that encourage themselves, people that trust and believe that they are the best and no one is better.  I actually gave up earlier this year and my faith gave way to the process and I was ready to close my salon and step out of the industry for good and I cried like a baby but the burden was too heavy for me, I gave up.  Then on May 10, 2013 I decided to look for a new building and that is where my blessings started, God has been blessing me every since in the salon industry so I'm here world and the Life of Glam Couture is going to get that much better. More blogs, more pictures, more views, more likes, more everything!

So feel free to click on the link above and check out the Glam Couture Hair Page and if you like what you see hit the like button.  I will be posting You Tube videos with future blog post because I want you to experience The Life of Glam Couture with me, I want you see Glam Couture Hair in action, I want you to be a part of my walk with destiny, I want us to be best friends in our mind!

When I started this blog not once did I think that close to 5000, yes FIVE THOUSAND, people would read it!  Now I want to have those same results on the Glam Couture Facebook page that I started a few months ago. I made it to 100 likes and believe that if God got me to 100 he can get me to 1000 and if he can get me to 1000 then there is not limit to what I can do in this industry.  It doesn't matter which state, city or country you are in just click the like button in support of Glam Couture Hair.  I appreciate your support in the blog and ask for you to show some of that glamorous love and support on the Facebook page.  Thank you so much for giving me life!  And if your ever in the St. Petersburg area then look me up, give me a call, stop by and visit because you are a part of my destiny until next time my lovelies have a glamorous day!

Friday, July 19, 2013

The Life of Glam_Couture™~Glamourosity: Lemonade Anyone?!

The Life of Glam_Couture™~Glamourosity: Lemonade Anyone?!:   I was faced with an issue, a pressing dilemma of keeping my salon or closing the doors so I prayed on it.   It was May 10 when God showed ...

Lemonade Anyone?!

  I was faced with an issue, a pressing dilemma of keeping my salon or closing the doors so I prayed on it.  It was May 10 when God showed me where he wanted me to be.  It was 20 years ago that he gave me a vision in a dream that was captured in a picture when I went to look at the new location and all I could say was GOD IS SO GOOD.  The tears I could not control.  This is when I realized that sometimes in life God gives us a lemon when we asked for lemonade.  But it is how we handle the lemon that creates the lemonade.  We have to learn to utilizing the lemons God gave us, because what the devil meant for bad God meant for good. 
As I prepared to move God gave me a lemon, but through it all I kept saying Lord I trust you, I know you will make a way.  I had family pressing me on one end about everything except my salon and on the inside I was saying Lord I trust you and on the outside I was saying God will work it out.  It was finally moving day and I went to U-Haul to pick up the truck.  Now first off when I did the reservation they did not have the size truck I needed so I had to take a bigger one (more money right)!  So I was scheduled to pick the truck up on a Friday at 6:00pm and I arrived with a line longer than the Georgia Aquarium. The gentleman told me he closed at 7:00pm so I said I will be back because I had to go secure my storage unit.  Well when I arrived back I was told that I had to leave a $100 deposit because I was paying with cash, no one told me that on the phone and the bank is now closed and I only have $75.  So I said to myself you know what just go ahead and use your van to move, so I put gas in the van and had $40 remaining. 
I was giving some items at the shop away so my friend came with the truck to pick up the couch and asked if I wanted to put anything else on the truck.  PERFECT!  God was working, we used the truck to deliver the other couch and oversized chair to my brother whom I was gifting that to.  A few less runs in the van for me but then I started feeling overwhelmed for some reason, but I did not give up or give in I kept pressing.  As we were departing from the salon we noticed a U-Haul truck broke down across the street, the same size I wanted to rent but wasn’t available!  We went and delivered the furniture to my brother’s house and my brother and I headed back to the shop to finish moving.  As my brother and I were on the inside I had a thought, hey, that truck ran out of gas maybe they are headed to turn it in and I can pay them to take this stuff to the shop and have everything finished in one load.  BRILLIANT! 
My brother went to ask and no one was at the truck.  Ok, so I guess not, let’s keep loading the van.  Then I saw them return and my brother went over.  Now remember God gave me a lemon and how I use the lemon determines the end result right!    Well as it turned out the people had ran out of gas in the process of taking the truck back and only had $1 for gas, the lady told me she had been evicted out of a five bedroom house and all she could afford was the small truck to move and she had already had it two days longer than she should have.  They were attempting to find a bed at the Salvation Army shelter but they were full and no beds were available and she didn’t have enough money for a hotel room.  So here I was in a position to help her and she was in the same position to help me even though we are in two different scenarios God can use both of us!  I offered to pay her to use the truck to run one load to the shop then she could use the money I was giving her to get a room for the night.  So we went to the gas station and I put gas in the gas can for the U-Haul.  My brother and I loaded the truck stopped and put more gas in it then unloaded the truck and were ready to head down to U-Haul to turn it in! 
Well God showed up again.  One of the ladies friends called and stated that her sister had just moved out of her house and the water and lights were still on and the landlord didn’t know she had moved yet so her and her daughter could stay there for the weekend!  Isn’t God good!  I gave her the money as agreed and was glad that I made lemonade out of my lemon because sometimes God takes us through some things because there is someone else he needs us to help on the way to the blessing he has for us.  Years ago I told God, if you can use anything you can use me and my life from that point forward has been testimony after testimony after testimony of how God’s grace and favor on my life has helped me pass the test!   Yes, I wish I had more money to give this lady but God gave me a lemon and what did I do?  You got it; I made the sweetest glass of lemonade I could make.  What’s your praise report?  Go ahead and share God’s goodness with others, the least expected will be encouraged in ways you never though possible.  Until next time my lovelies have a glamorous day.